Monday, January 11, 2010

Face by Sherman Alexie


I often like the poetry written by prose writers that I admire, Margaret Atwood and Terry Tempest Williams, for instance, but this collection by Sherman Alexie has totally blown me away. Alexie plays with words, stanzas, and ancient poetic forms in ways that make me wish I knew more about poetry. However, the real power in this work is not in exploring sonnets or villanelles, but in mining deeply personal stories and emotions.

The overriding themes of death and god and love are woven together with the more mundane, like being insecure about love handles and creating an iPod playlist. The poems dealing with the death of his father are raw and honest and talk about loss and grief in a real way, without using watered down platitudes or sentimentality. Every day we are asked to consume death as entertainment - television is a revolving line up cops, crime labs, and hospitals, bestselling novels are all about finding the killer, and do we really even need to talk about the way that death is covered by news agencies? Even though we are bombarded with images of "corpses" being analyzed and attractively earnest young doctors breaking the news to overwrought families that their loved one didn't pull through, the subject of death and dying and grief is generally to be avoided on a personal level.

In his poem, "Grief Calls Us to the Things of This World" Alexie tells of calling home and asking his mother if he can speak to "Poppa" only to remember that his father has been dead for nearly a year. His mother responds with: " 'I made him a cup of instant coffee / This morning and left it on the table - / Like I have, for what, twenty-seven years - / And I didn't realize my mistake / Until this afternoon.' My mother laughs / At the angels that wait for us to pause / During the most ordinary of days / And sing our praise to forgetfulness / Before they slap our souls with their cold wings.

Monday, January 4, 2010

Grave Matters by Mark Harris


This book made me cry. Not tears of sadness thinking about death and dying - but tears of joy for the beautiful ways that families have found to care for and memorialize their beloved dead.

Like Jessica Mitford (see previous post), Mark Harris is a journalist who happened upon the subject of the modern American funeral industry and has become something of a spokesman and expert in green alternatives to "traditional" burial practices. His website is amazing source of information on the subject, the blog in particular. I love when authors provide rich websites and blogs to go along with their books. It is wonderful to be able to keep following a subject even after I've sadly finished reading the last page.

Harris takes us on a journey starting in a typical American funeral home and ending in a memorial forest. Along the way we learn about The Memorial Reef, family burial plots, and alternatives to cremation. There is plenty of practical information interwoven with personal stories of the families and the folks in all walks of the funeral industry. The balance of information, even difficult to read descriptions of embalming procedures, with emotional stories of coming to grips with loss was really well done in this book. The tone is affirming and educational in a way that ties death care to the greater environmental movement, showing how you can make a difference for the planet, even as a final act.